Pretend play is an important learning activity for children. Parents can join in and model the sorts of behaviours they want their child to follow.
At this stage, a child will enjoy pretend play with parents, friends and even themselves. Pretend play helps children express ideas, feelings and relationships. By imitating caregivers, they are starting to develop their imagination and capacity for empathy.
Ask the whānau:
- What do you remember from your childhood about this type of play?
- What were your pretend games?
Copying speech and mannerisms
Surprisingly, parents can sometimes be shocked to hear their child using their tone of voice or their phrases. A child may take on an adult’s pose and attitude while pretending to talk on the phone. Or parents may overhear their child talking to a doll in the same way they speak to them. This is a strong reminder that children are watching us and learning from us all the time.
Gentle nurturing care, using manners and being friendly – in fact any behaviour that whānau want their child to learn – can be modelled through pretend play.
- What sorts of things have you seen your child copying from you?
- How did you feel about that?
- Is there something you’d like your child to learn that you might be able to model through pretend play?
- Knowing about your child’s development, how might you change a behaviour or way of speaking you don’t like seeing in your child?
Look at page 10 of the Whakatipu booklet 'Te Kōhuri 3' with the whānau – Ngā mahi a pēpi.
‘Have a few old clothes, hats and bags in a box that pēpi has easy access to. Role-playing with “dress ups” develops imagination, language and creativity as well as practical skills like dressing yourself and doing up buttons. Pēpi will enjoy playing with friends and whānau or being by himself with a few soft toys added for some pretend conversations. Lots of fun and learning inside or outdoors.’
- What sorts of things could you make available for your toddler to enrich their pretend play?
Here are some ideas the whānau might want to try.
- Join their child in their play – taking the child’s lead and remembering not to take over.
- Collect props that help children take on roles, for example, office odds and ends, grocery containers, coupons and play money, as well as hats, bags, shoes and clothes for dress ups.
- Make simple masks using paper bags – a safe child-height mirror adds enjoyment too.
- Are there ways you might enter into your child’s play and introduce topics that have been worrying them, for example, practising going to the hospital, moving house or welcoming a new baby?
There is a strong relationship between pretend play and learning language. They both use symbolism, where one thing can stand for another thing. In pretend play, we might use a blanket for a tent house, and in language, our words stand for our thoughts, ideas and feelings.
Pretend play helps children learn to use symbols. We can also introduce less commonly used words during pretend play, like ‘rescue’, ‘castle’ or ‘pirate’.
Benefits of pretend play
Pretend play with a child can help them:
- learn about playing with others
- imagine what it’s like to be another person – which is important for developing empathy
- have fun and have lots to talk about
- make stories come alive by acting out the characters.
‘Play is a rehearsal for the challenges and ambiguities of life.’ (National Geographic, December 1994)