At around 2 or 3, a child starts to ask lots of questions. This shows they are curious and want to understand their world. Whānau should encourage this through games and engagement.
Between the ages of 2 and 3, a child will probably start asking lots of questions. The most common question is usually ‘what’s that?’ This has been the question that’s helped build their vocabulary. So it makes sense that it will continue to be an important phrase for them to use.
They may also ask ‘Where?’ and ‘Why?’ as they are curious about the world and their enquiring minds need to know the answers.
These questions should be encouraged by the whānau. They are a sign that a child is exercising their curiosity, and this will feed their mind.
Sometimes children already know the answer to their question and it’s more about engaging adults in conversation. That’s why responding with ‘What do you think?’ or ‘Why do you think it’s happening?’ is the perfect response as it gives the child the chance to talk about what they know and gives whānau a chance to tell them how clever they are!
On page 17 of the Whakatipu booklet 'Te Kōhuri 2', Whānau say: ‘When we are out and about, we can play some little games like “kei hea te whare kikorangi?” and “kei hea te … ngeru?” Pēpi is very curious now so playing these games will encourage her curiosity and further strengthen her thinking and talking.’
Ask the whānau:
- What sorts of games do you play together?
- You might like to try some turn-taking question games. First, you ask a ‘where is?’ or ‘kei hea?’ or ‘I can see a … can you?’ question, then your child asks you.
- Would you be happy to try?
- What is your child curious about?
- How do you handle it?
- What about other members of the whānau – do they encourage pēpi to ask and answer questions?
On page 16 of the Whakatipu booklet 'Te Kōhuri 3', Pēpi says: ‘I’m nearly 3 years old and I can say about 1,000 words now, probably more! And some days I’ve got 1,000 questions too.’
- How do you relate to this?
- What do you do when you feel your child is bombarding you with questions?
- What do you think would help?
- Can you remember what it felt like as a child, wanting to know something and people not listening to you?
The talking and listening principle on page 23 of the Whakatipu booklet 'Te Kōhuri 3' (Ngā tohu whānau) includes the following suggestion for parents: ‘Answer the many questions and sometimes say, "what do you think?"’
Talking and listening to a child is a basic activity that strengthens relationships, as well as exercising the brain. Children may ask the same questions over and over again. This can feel irritating to whānau, but their tamaiti will find it reassuring to hear the same or a similar answer each time.
When tough things happen, like death or separation or other trauma, children will ask questions as they try to come to grips with the event.
Keep things simple – there’s no need to complicate matters with unnecessary details. There are no perfect answers, but it’s important to try to answer as gently, simply and honestly as possible.
How does this relate to Tākai resources?
Baby wall frieze – Whakarongo mai – listen to me
Six things children need – Te kōrero me te whakarongo – talking and listening