Over 20 years ago, these tamariki shared what they needed from their parents, whānau and community. To celebrate the return of Tākai, we went back to see what's stayed with them. Happy voices, time to breathe, someone to listen. Watch the video.
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Children's voices – 20 years later (transcript)
[Music]
Joe:
Hello.
Maraea:
Kia ora.
Joe:
Kia ora.
Maraea:
Are you comfortable?
Tira:
Yep.
Maraea:
Ka pai. Kia ora kōrua.
Do you remember this?
Kyle:
Let's have a look.
Te Urukaipo:
Ka awhi ngā mātua.
Nina:
That's me.
Daniel:
Yeah, Joe.
Tira:
Ki te mahi korowai.
Oh my gosh.
I like playing dominoes with my nana.
Angus:
Ask me what's been going on.
Tira:
Is this guy getting interviewed?
Angus:
Put me on my bed until I've stopped crying.
Nina:
And I'm four years old now.
TeWairahipere:
Kōrero pai koe ki ahau i ngā wā katoa.
Kyle:
I like going shopping and getting some things – things that I really like.
Tira:
They sing to me.
Daniel:
They just remind me of things I've been through, like happy things.
Angus:
Ask me what's been going on.
Joe:
Give me apple.
Give me a glass of water.
Makes me breathe.
The apple's crazy – crazily enough, I've moved back in with my parents for the last couple of months while I'm back home for work, and my dad still brings me a fruit plate every night, and there's always apples on it.
It is so powerful because children just speak their mind, and what comes out is very precious.
Nina:
There were a couple where they were talking about how giving them time to breathe was helpful for them.
That's incredible to know when you're five, or however old they would have been.
So we have, I guess, a lot of knowledge already in terms of what keeps us regulated and what calms us down.
TeWairahipere:
It made me think of how far I've come.
I was so little. I didn't know anything about the world.
Maraea:
The question was, how can we reward you? And you said birthday presents.
Te Urukaipo:
Oh yeah, birthday presents.
That one, I think, doesn't ring as true anymore. As an adult now, I value things a little bit differently.
It's a bit too late now, but I realise the one thing I probably would have wanted most was a day at koro's place.
Yep, that would be the new answer. Another day at koro's place.
Pukenui:
How should I speak to you?
Pukenui’s son:
Happy voice.
You copy and paste my answer.
I like the happy voice.
Daniel:
Found out I'm going to be a pāpā last night.
The most exciting thing is probably just giving my father a grandchild.
He's not the healthiest person at the moment, so getting to do that before it gets a bit too late...
I wasn't able to do that with my mum, but yeah, that's probably the thing that gets me.
It's just being able to provide that for my father.
TeWairahipere:
As a tamaiti, you never know if you can talk or if you can't talk.
They're our next generation, just as I was the generation coming up in that video.
Tira:
Tamariki shape the future of the world we live in, so it's important to give them a voice and let them express their imagination.
[Text on screen: what are some of the childhood values or lessons that are still important today?]
Tira:
Ngā ōku mātua me ōku pakeke, ōku kaumātua i whakatauira mai.
[Text on screen: My parents, the adults around me and my elders were the people who set the example for me]
Te manaaki te tangata.
[Text on screen:They showed me how to care for others.]
Te whakapai i te whare, te tū i te ngākau whakaiti.
[Text on screen: How to look after the home.]
Nō reira ko tāku noa he tuku i ērā ki taku kōtiro.
[Text on screen: These are the values I want to pass on to my daughter.]
[Text on screen: 20 years on, how has the community shaped the person you are today?]
Angus:
It's hard to go to your parents for certain things you're going through, especially when there's such disparity between the ages and the things happening in your life, so having someone who can relate to what you're going through has just been so helpful.
Daniel:
I was a kid who was brought up by a village, so I had a really good support system around me.
It was instilled in me quite young that if you're upset, you've got to find ways to get out of that.
And I had a lot of people to talk to as well – hypothetically, if you're a bit upset with your parents or whatever, I had aunties and uncles to lean on, or cousins and things like that.
TeWairahipere:
My road from being a teenager to a māmā now hasn't been easy.
I haven't been perfect, but I just plan on doing my best.
That kōrero does stand – it does take a village to raise tamariki.
[Text on screen: Do you think kids today would answer in the same way?]
Kyle:
I think as kids you just want to be loved. When things go wrong, you just want someone to be there for you.
Joe:
It's still key to have friends and family and ways to deal with issues, whether minor or major. I feel like that's still the same.
TeWairahipere:
Kia ora.
Maraea:
Ka pai, thank you.
[Text on screen: All it takes is for us to listen]
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Children's Voices (transcript)
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[Text on screen: How should we talk to you?]
Speaker 1:
Talk nicely. Kōrero pai ki ahau.
Speaker 2:
I like it when they speak softly.
Speaker 3:
I don't like people to scream.
Speaker 4:
And if you don't speak to them nice, they won't speak to you nice.
Speaker 5:
Pīrangi au te reo māhaki
[Text on screen: Speak to me in a gentle voice]
Speaker 2:
Don't go too angry.
Speaker 6:
Speak nice.
Speaker 7:
Being friendly.
Speaker 8:
Respect other people.
Speaker 9:
I like the happy voice.
[Text on screen: How can we help you behave well?]
Speaker 10:
Tell you the right things to do and not the wrong things.
Speaker 11:
Well, they show me what to do because I sometimes can't see what they're doing. Tell me what I should be doing.
Speaker 12:
Awhitia ahau kia pai taku manawa
[Text on screen: Help me to have a good heart]
Speaker 13:
Help me do it if I'm feeling cross.
Speaker 14:
They should learn me to. And I'm four years old now.
Speaker 15:
Ka awhi ngā mātua
[Text on screen: My parents help me.]
Speaker 16:
They give me choices that are right. Then I choose one.
Speaker 12:
Kōrero pai ki ahau i ngā wā katoa
[Text on screen: Speak nicely to me all the times]
[Text on screen: How can we reward you?]
Speaker 17:
Like going shopping and getting some things that I really like.
Speaker 12:
Take me somewhere to play and take me somewhere with my friends.
Speaker 11:
Give them a toy, watch television. Give them a new pet.
Speaker 18:
We go to the beach after when we tidy up the whole house.
Speaker 5:
Give us treats.
Speaker 10:
Taonga mō ngā huritau.
[Text on screen: Birthday presents]
Speaker 19:
By going to the shop and getting me something.
Speaker 1:
Ki te mahi korowai
[Text on screen: Helping me to make cloaks]
Speaker 20:
I like playing dominos with my nana.
Speaker 10:
We go out together and we talk to each other.
Speaker 3:
Play with the park.
Speaker 14:
Give me a surprise? Maybe.
[Text on screen: How can we help you when you’re upset?]
Speaker 17:
Come and kiss me better and give me some cuddles. Leave me alone and I can think for a bit.
Speaker 1:
Kōrero pukapuka atu ki ahau, taku māmā ki ahau.
[Text on screen: My mum reads me books]
Speaker 19:
Cuddle me.
Speaker 10:
Ka awhi tōku māmā i ahau.
[Text on screen: My mum helps me do things]
Speaker 20:
When my sister cries I can give her a hug or a kiss.
Speaker 7:
Say what’s happening?
Speaker 21:
Just sit there and listen.
Speaker 4:
In our house, how old you are, how many minutes you have to stay in your bedroom. So I have to stay my bedroom for like seven minutes
Speaker 21:
Keep holding them like carrying a baby.
Speaker 5:
Ka pānui au he pukapuka.
[Text on screen: I read a book]
Speaker 22:
They just remind me of things that I've been through. Like happy things.
Speaker 23:
I tell them the problem and then they'd sort it out with me.
Speaker 24:
She says it's okay when you're angry just let it all out.
Speaker 1:
Awhi mai me kihi.
[Text on screen: Hug me and kiss me]
Speaker 25:
When I'm feeling cross mum, don't talk to me really loud. Ask me what's been going on, put me on my bed until I’ve stopped crying.
Speaker 26:
Massage
Speaker 15:
Tiki he taonga, kaore e pouri e koe.
[Text on screen: Comfort me until I’m not unhappy]
Speaker 8:
Give me apple. Give me a glass of water. Makes me breathe.
Speaker 1:
Sing to me.
[Text on Screen:
Thanks to the children from St Anne’s School, Sagata Ana Aoga Amata, Te Punanga Reo Kuki Airani, Houghton Valley Playcentre, Houghton Valley School, Te Ara Whānui Kura Kaupapa Māori
Paula Kele for the Tokelau children from Porirua, and Lower Hutt
Rose Sinclair for Kiribati children from the Porirua Community]
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