Understanding what causes us stress, and identifying strategies to avoid it or help with it.

Learning goals

  • Identify stressors and their possible causes.
  • Develop strategies for keeping calm during parenting challenges.

Brainstorm the things that cause stress

As a group, brainstorm the things that stress people most about their parenting. Record the ideas on a whiteboard or flip chart.

Each participant then rates their top 3 stressors on a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being the most stressful).

In pairs, discuss:

  • What are your stressors and why have you rated them as you have?
  • What might be some of the causes of these stressors for you?

Share with the full group and discuss the common stressors:

  • Is there a top three across the full group?
  • Are the likely causes of each stressor common too?

Identify strategies for dealing with stress

In pairs or small groups:

  • Discuss what might be happening in our brains during these times.
  • Think about possible strategies to a) avoid stress, or b) alleviate stress.

Small groups can share with the bigger group to create a shared list of strategies for everyone.

  • You could also type up the list of strategies to hand out at the next session.

Ask parents to draw up their own list of strategies.

  • Give out Tākai magnets to hang up the strategies on their fridges at home.

Resources

Tākai resources:

Staying calm with kids booklet [PDF, 6.9 MB]

The world of under-fives [PDF, 9.8 MB] – ‘Managing your own stress’, pp.20-21

3 ways to keep your cool magnet [PDF, 3.8 MB]

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